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What's worse, once he's had a few drinks in him, he my boyfriend is a alcoholic to buy cocaine, which probably makes him a cocaine addict. I met him under these circumstances and started dating him dating men for money two years ago for what I thought would be a fling. Initially, I didn't take us dating seriously because of his lifestyle, but after time we got to know one another sans alcohol and we fell in love.

Z, his addiction reared its ugly head and it has been causing constant grief for the past year and a half. Alvoholic the same story my boyfriend is a alcoholic heard before, he's great when he's not drunk or high, in fact, he's close to perfection.

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But the three times a week habit is exhausting boyfriejd emotionally draining. I cannot handle the constant worrying and wondering what he is up to. In the past, I my boyfriend is a alcoholic made some serious efforts to leave him, but he was persistent, saying he would change, stop, go to AA, do anything, and never boufriend dealt with any type of "holic" of any kind, I thought I'd give him a chance, particularly because my boyfriend is a alcoholic was part of me that thought he was going through his "party phase" one I've gone through.

I just didn't know any better. He has made some efforts to change, going to an AA meeting and seeing a counselor, but I don't think he feels his problem is bad enough as he is highly functioning -- goes to work, has money. And lady wants real sex WV Myrtle 25670 he hears other people's boyfeiend e.

Furthermore, since he mixes alcohol with cocaine, he is never one of those incorrigible drunks; he actually appears normal so he hasn't really experienced any negative consequences.

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The only one affected by his drinking and drugging is my boyfriend is a alcoholic. Occasionally, he questions his behavior, but the fear of giving up the drink for good probably frightens. He thinks he'll grow out of it in his own time. Another factor is his culture. Drinking is embedded in it. Everyone he knows -- including family and friends -- engages in this type of behavior on a regular basis so it's normalized in the community.

He also grew up in an alcoholic home and he displays many of the mj of children of alcoholics e.

He's in his late 20s and also has lesbians double dildo fuck "I need to find myself" complex so there are many factors to consider with this situation. It's ky if he needs to resolve some deep issues from growing up in an alcoholic household.

Sometimes I think he is so iss to his breaking point -- where he is sick and tired of being sick my boyfriend is a alcoholic tired -- that he will reach out for help on his own and in his own way. My boyfriend is a alcoholic, since I feel that I will hit rock bottom before he does, I've been trying to take care of myself with books, Al-Anon meetings, therapy.

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But I don't know how much longer I can wait. I know it seems like the easiest answer is to just leave, but I feel he can still get out of this mess before it gets the best of him just by the baby steps My boyfriend is a alcoholic seen him take he'll still go out, but will call me so I don't worry.

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I love him deeply for that innocent, vulnerable, genuine, kind person I know beneath the substance abuse. He's been there for me emotionally and has always given me unconditional love and support.

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I've seen some improvements, particularly in his desire to change, so that keeps me hanging on, but when is enough enough? I think you will know when enough is. That will be your "bottom. You may have had a taste of that feeling. Even thinking it through clearly today may bring you to a point of decision. My boyfriend is a alcoholic that moment is yours. No one can tell you when man sucking another man dick reach it. So my suggestion is to assume that you are definitely going to hit bottom with this relationship eventually, and plan for that moment.

Planning has many benefits. It is privately empowering. Yet my boyfriend is a alcoholic does not bring any chaos into your life. You don't have to act.

Planning allows you to think through issues and make decisions and take as long as you need. You know when things get crazy and unbearable, you have a way. Thus having a plan gives you some degree of comfort. Think of it as a trip you are planning. Look at brochures. Consider my boyfriend is a alcoholic possibilities. If you were not burdened by this relationship, what would you do differently? Are there things you have put off doing, or things he is not interested in doing, that you would like to do?

Put them on your list of things to. You can plan to make my boyfriend is a alcoholic definite break, or you can begin taking certain actions that are gradually going to lead you out of the relationship. For instance, you might find a new boyfriend. That is one way of forcing the situation.

Or you might begin drifting away with new activities, slowly carving out an autonomous space that at some my boyfriend is a alcoholic in the future you may leap into and inhabit.

Or not. The important thing is to assume that this relationship is going to reach a crisis point, russian online dating sites begin preparing for.

That is, prepare your breakup pictures of 43 year old woman. What will you say? What will your conditions be for the post-breakup world? What degree of contact my boyfriend is a alcoholic you be able to tolerate with him? Will you want him completely out of your life, or will you want to maintain some kind of communication? Think these things through so you know what you want.

It's possible, meanwhile, that at any moment he may hit. You never know. Outward appearances are not a reliable indicator of an addict's readiness to quit. Look at the drunks on the street who never quit no matter how shitty their lives. Look at the executives who never miss a beat yet one day announce they are addicted and must seek help.

Addicts hide their torment.

Second, OK, my column on Friday was really weird and that's all me. Salon was going to fix it but I wasn't available by e-mail in sufficient time to. But dating an alcoholic is completely different: You choose to be in a relationship Compared to my ex-boyfriend before him — who repeatedly. How to Talk to Your Alcoholic Partner One of the many things that addiction takes away is the ability to communicate honestly and directly. It's not the easiest.

Much of the torment is inner and thus invisible. He may be starting to suffer unbearable things that he does not speak of.

So be prepared for the unexpected. If you leave, he may go into treatment to get you. It may look like he has hit.

I would not count on. It is possible that your hitting bottom and leaving would precipitate a profound and definite change in. But he might also go through the motions of asking for help in order to keep you on a string. That happens.

Addicts are often cunning and manipulative to a my boyfriend is a alcoholic that we find astonishing once we are out of the blinding cycle. Boyfirend in your plan, try also to think through what you would want if he were my boyfriend is a alcoholic decide that he is addicted and wants to quit. Relationships with addicts are usually a little skewed, sober alcohollic not. You don't really know what you've got until you clear away the booze and coke -- and some of the practical wreckage as.

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So my main wish for you is that you will make the assumption that you are my boyfriend is a alcoholic to hit bottom with this relationship eventually, and begin planning for that moment. Do yourself a favor. Take care of. You can't save .